Ebay is my friend
Looking for hair accessories atm...veils and things. Have no idea how to have my hair.
Monday, 12 September 2011
Ebay is my Friend!
Well been doing research on ebay for invitations and bombonieres and...I reckon I can make my own invites including getting inserts printed for around $50something. And I can get Bom's with stickers with guest names on them for $50 something as well! How awesome is that!!!!
Ebay is my friend
Looking for hair accessories atm...veils and things. Have no idea how to have my hair.
Ebay is my friend
Looking for hair accessories atm...veils and things. Have no idea how to have my hair.
And it's about Time!!!
Yes after being together for 5 and a half years and two children, we're finally tying the knot!!
Ok the date is going to be 18th of Feb. 2012. However we might change this depending if the venue has the space in March or April. It's going to be so hot in Feb!!! But if we can't change it then 18th Feb it is!
We've chosen our venue at Highfields Cutlural Centre - we love it because of the lighting effects that they have and the fact that we can get married outside and the guests don't have to go anywhere! We can go off and get a few photos and the guests can mingle around a lovely outdoor area having canapés and drinks before being ushered into the reception area.
My colour is going to be pale pink - love pink! I'm having my children in the bridal party and Aaron's having his brother as his best man.
I've ordered and paid for the girl's bridesmaid dresses $156.95 altogether from Dino's direct custom made. Bought Cassidy's flowergirl dress for $50 bargain!
Photography is going to be free as my cousin's going to do it - yay
A friend's going to do the cake at around $150
And am looking online ATM for invitations and bomboneires! I've found some plastic boxes that you could put ribbon around and they come with a sticker with the guest's name on it for free. So technically I could get the bom's and the place cards for one price...but still shopping because I think I can get them separate for cheaper still.
I think I'm going to make my own invites so looking on ebay atm for supplies for that...cheap as.
Next port of call is to find a celebrant!
Ok the date is going to be 18th of Feb. 2012. However we might change this depending if the venue has the space in March or April. It's going to be so hot in Feb!!! But if we can't change it then 18th Feb it is!
We've chosen our venue at Highfields Cutlural Centre - we love it because of the lighting effects that they have and the fact that we can get married outside and the guests don't have to go anywhere! We can go off and get a few photos and the guests can mingle around a lovely outdoor area having canapés and drinks before being ushered into the reception area.
My colour is going to be pale pink - love pink! I'm having my children in the bridal party and Aaron's having his brother as his best man.
I've ordered and paid for the girl's bridesmaid dresses $156.95 altogether from Dino's direct custom made. Bought Cassidy's flowergirl dress for $50 bargain!
Photography is going to be free as my cousin's going to do it - yay
A friend's going to do the cake at around $150
And am looking online ATM for invitations and bomboneires! I've found some plastic boxes that you could put ribbon around and they come with a sticker with the guest's name on it for free. So technically I could get the bom's and the place cards for one price...but still shopping because I think I can get them separate for cheaper still.
I think I'm going to make my own invites so looking on ebay atm for supplies for that...cheap as.
Next port of call is to find a celebrant!
The Wedding Plans Continue.
I haven't written anything for a little while but that doesn't mean I haven't been writing. I have, I've been writing about our wedding plans etc, which, ironically, have exploded into something bigger than what we've planned...funny as! But we figure we may as well just do it one time and properly, with all the bells and whistles rather than having a second rate BBQ then doing the whole wedding thing later. He's gotten a pay rise so we reckon we can make it so...
Anyway, the next few posts are from another forum I frequent, with all the updates of the wedding and a few other things.
I haven 't been slack...honest! :)
Anyway, the next few posts are from another forum I frequent, with all the updates of the wedding and a few other things.
I haven 't been slack...honest! :)
Tuesday, 2 August 2011
Feeling better today.
Spoke to Aaron about how I'm feeling and I feel a lot better about everything now. It seems that he wasn't flirting that's not what he does. He was trying to change the subject and asking why she's so beautiful and amazing was the first thing he thought of. He also only joined that xxx book thing because the guys at work were going on about how it's on the news and things and he joined up to see what the fuss was about, then he never went back. When you look at the friend requests in his email none of them had been opened which meant he didn't even look at any of them.
He understands that it was all innaproprate and that he's real sorry and recognises that if it had been me that had done that then he would have had the same questions I did. He understands completely.
I feel a lot better about everything now and feel that I'm his girl again - thank God!
Our wedding is being pushed up too...he wants to hurry up and marry me to show how serious he really is about us. So yes it's going to be a simple little ceremony at the Toowoomba Magestrates with just us and our children, which will be really very nice I think. I'm thinking about maybe having a BBQ afterwards with the rest of my family and friends and just hang out.
Oooooh I love him...as silly as he is sometimes and how he doesn't always think things through. But that's just him.
He understands that it was all innaproprate and that he's real sorry and recognises that if it had been me that had done that then he would have had the same questions I did. He understands completely.
I feel a lot better about everything now and feel that I'm his girl again - thank God!
Our wedding is being pushed up too...he wants to hurry up and marry me to show how serious he really is about us. So yes it's going to be a simple little ceremony at the Toowoomba Magestrates with just us and our children, which will be really very nice I think. I'm thinking about maybe having a BBQ afterwards with the rest of my family and friends and just hang out.
Oooooh I love him...as silly as he is sometimes and how he doesn't always think things through. But that's just him.
He didn't cheat....
But everytime I look at him or think of him I'm wondering if he's telling someone else how beautiful and amazing they are. Because he's done it and I really don't know how many times but I know he's asked some girl "Why are you so beautiful and amazing". Wouldn't be such a big drama if he didn't tell me that all the time, to the point where I actually felt beautiful and amazing TO HIM. Now I don't anymore. I feel like Anything with a vagina would be beautiful and amazing to him. Not just me. They could be the ugliest most stupidist girl in the world, but apparantly they could be beautiful and amazing too. There's only room for one beautiful and amazing girl in his life....I will not share that status. I will not! :(
Has it always been this way? Can he say those things to just any girl? Does he mean it? Is he joking? Did he mean it to me and not to anyone else? What was he fishing for exactly and what would have happened if he got a bite? He says he doesn't even know why he said it...Ok so people just flirt with others and they don't know why? Bullshit!!! Bull fucking shit!!!!
And then to join up that stupid xxx book shit...what was he thinking??? Curiosity? To see what was out there? All he had to do was ask me and I would tell him...there are skanks, skanks and more skanks because they're the type who would add people as a 'friend' on those sites and they're skantily clad to boot...bargain hey! Why have me when you can have a skanky whore who thinks that their body is the only thing of worth that sleazy men would like?
He said he didn't do anything with it and he wouldn't have taken anything further with anyone and I believe that he didn't...I really do. But I now don't believe that he won't in the future. This has scared the shit out of me and I hate feeling this way about him but everytime I think of him I get butterflies in the stomach and I feel sick. I'm shit scared that he's going to say this to the one girl who would reciprocate and bam! That's it! We would be over and everything that we've worked for for the last 5 years would be for nothing.
Again, I would be faced wondering what the hell is wrong with me that I can't keep my men.
It's going to take a long time to get the trust back, if it ever comes back at all. And I'm always going to wonder, with every compliment he gives me (because he's good with the compliments), is he giving the same compliment to some sheila in the hopes that they flirt back and want to do something with him.
This sucks and it's going to eat away with me until we do something about it. I don't know what...but I'll chew on it and chew on it and it won't be any good for our relationship. Gee I wish he'd thought of that before he did it!!
Has it always been this way? Can he say those things to just any girl? Does he mean it? Is he joking? Did he mean it to me and not to anyone else? What was he fishing for exactly and what would have happened if he got a bite? He says he doesn't even know why he said it...Ok so people just flirt with others and they don't know why? Bullshit!!! Bull fucking shit!!!!
And then to join up that stupid xxx book shit...what was he thinking??? Curiosity? To see what was out there? All he had to do was ask me and I would tell him...there are skanks, skanks and more skanks because they're the type who would add people as a 'friend' on those sites and they're skantily clad to boot...bargain hey! Why have me when you can have a skanky whore who thinks that their body is the only thing of worth that sleazy men would like?
He said he didn't do anything with it and he wouldn't have taken anything further with anyone and I believe that he didn't...I really do. But I now don't believe that he won't in the future. This has scared the shit out of me and I hate feeling this way about him but everytime I think of him I get butterflies in the stomach and I feel sick. I'm shit scared that he's going to say this to the one girl who would reciprocate and bam! That's it! We would be over and everything that we've worked for for the last 5 years would be for nothing.
Again, I would be faced wondering what the hell is wrong with me that I can't keep my men.
It's going to take a long time to get the trust back, if it ever comes back at all. And I'm always going to wonder, with every compliment he gives me (because he's good with the compliments), is he giving the same compliment to some sheila in the hopes that they flirt back and want to do something with him.
This sucks and it's going to eat away with me until we do something about it. I don't know what...but I'll chew on it and chew on it and it won't be any good for our relationship. Gee I wish he'd thought of that before he did it!!
Monday, 25 July 2011
Taking Responsibility
More and more, these days, I see people continually refusing to take any responsibility for their own lives. Even just a small part. Why is it that we feel that talking responsibility is such a bad thing? Is it because we are afraid that people are going to go "Ha so it is your fault...no compassion for you!" Why can't we have compassion for those who make bad decisions in their lives. We all make crappy decisions but we can learn from them and move on. We can even help and teach others in the hopes that they don't make the same decisions.
I was part of a discussion, yesterday, regarding Amy Winehouse and her sad demise. The message that I got from the whole discussion is that people refuse to take responsibility for the part they play in their own addiction to drugs. I felt that there was a lot of negativity in the way these people think and that they don't wish to take control of their lives. It seems that because they've been told that addiction is a 'disease' that they somehow feel 'That's it... I'm doomed'. It's almost like they're continually pushing their own control away from themselves and putting it on a ....a belief? Instead of owning it and taking control they wallow in victim land and expect everyone else to wallow with them in sympathy.
These kind of attitudes, in itself, is a disease of sorts that needs to be cured. I'm not sure that validating these attitudes is the way to do it, but attempting to give them another perspective, ends up with people attacking you and your own opinion that might differ from the status quo. My opinion might be wrong...or it might be a little bit right? But it seems that no one wants to even contemplate it out of fear. Fear of what? Responsibility? Is this something to fear? Maybe it is. It's the unknown isn't it. People fear the unknown and they don't want any part of it. Staying the victim is safe. Staying the victim keeps you innocent. Staying the victim keeps you blameless. But it doesn't have to be that way.
A certain comment that I read yesterday made me cold. The comment was "If I have to go through one more thing I know that I will use again". Wow!!! Ok is this what this person is telling themselves? Everyday? What kind of a message is this? And it's any wander they're still a victim of their addiction because this is what they've already decided for their lives and they haven't even finished living it yet.
If this is what they're telling themselves then where do they get this idea? Is this what others are telling them? That they are teetering on this presipice and they have no control on whether they fall or not? This is a falsehood that they are led to believe. They've taken their own freedom of will away. They've decided for themselves that choice doesn't enter in. Well I believe they are wrong! So so wrong! They are stronger than they think they are and I wish someone had the guts to tell them that without fear of being attacked themselves for daring to go against the status quo.
It seems everyone else wants to leave them where they are...wallowing in their own past, not ever taking control of their own lives or choices and then when they fall again say 'See? We were right!" Well you are...but at what cost??
I was told yesterday that I oughta hope that my kids don't become drug addicts and that maybe my view might change if they did. Well maybe it will but I highly doubt it. I know myself enough to know that I really don't think my opinion is going to change much. I'm a realist and have been one most of my life. I've had many bad things happen to me and mine and I'm still a realist. I see things for what they are....I try not to lie to myself and tell myself that I'm a victim. I'm not a freakin' victim because I choose to take my power back and yet there are those who continually give their power away.
I teach my kids about consequences and responsibility. I tell them if they don't make the right choices in life then they will have to deal with the consequences of that, no matter what they are. That's not to say that I, as their mother, isn't going to support them or help them through difficult situations when they happen, but I'm not going to stop teaching it. I teach them if they don't do their homework then they will be punished at school. I teach them that if they don't pay attention in class then they're marks are going to suffer which will, in turn, cause difficulty later on. I tell them if they don't put their clothes in the wash they simply won't get washed. And when they earn money I'll be teaching them that if they spend their money on crap then they won't be able to pay their bills.
There are a myraid of reasons why someone may make a bad decision. And some of these reasons are very sad ones but it doesn't change the consequences and it doesn't magically take the choice out of their hands and into this cosmic world that forces your hand.
This is what I teach my kids but it seems society is passing the buck more and more and making excuses for bad decisions all the time rather than owning them. And I ask....Is this really wise???
Well is it?
I was part of a discussion, yesterday, regarding Amy Winehouse and her sad demise. The message that I got from the whole discussion is that people refuse to take responsibility for the part they play in their own addiction to drugs. I felt that there was a lot of negativity in the way these people think and that they don't wish to take control of their lives. It seems that because they've been told that addiction is a 'disease' that they somehow feel 'That's it... I'm doomed'. It's almost like they're continually pushing their own control away from themselves and putting it on a ....a belief? Instead of owning it and taking control they wallow in victim land and expect everyone else to wallow with them in sympathy.
These kind of attitudes, in itself, is a disease of sorts that needs to be cured. I'm not sure that validating these attitudes is the way to do it, but attempting to give them another perspective, ends up with people attacking you and your own opinion that might differ from the status quo. My opinion might be wrong...or it might be a little bit right? But it seems that no one wants to even contemplate it out of fear. Fear of what? Responsibility? Is this something to fear? Maybe it is. It's the unknown isn't it. People fear the unknown and they don't want any part of it. Staying the victim is safe. Staying the victim keeps you innocent. Staying the victim keeps you blameless. But it doesn't have to be that way.
A certain comment that I read yesterday made me cold. The comment was "If I have to go through one more thing I know that I will use again". Wow!!! Ok is this what this person is telling themselves? Everyday? What kind of a message is this? And it's any wander they're still a victim of their addiction because this is what they've already decided for their lives and they haven't even finished living it yet.
If this is what they're telling themselves then where do they get this idea? Is this what others are telling them? That they are teetering on this presipice and they have no control on whether they fall or not? This is a falsehood that they are led to believe. They've taken their own freedom of will away. They've decided for themselves that choice doesn't enter in. Well I believe they are wrong! So so wrong! They are stronger than they think they are and I wish someone had the guts to tell them that without fear of being attacked themselves for daring to go against the status quo.
It seems everyone else wants to leave them where they are...wallowing in their own past, not ever taking control of their own lives or choices and then when they fall again say 'See? We were right!" Well you are...but at what cost??
I was told yesterday that I oughta hope that my kids don't become drug addicts and that maybe my view might change if they did. Well maybe it will but I highly doubt it. I know myself enough to know that I really don't think my opinion is going to change much. I'm a realist and have been one most of my life. I've had many bad things happen to me and mine and I'm still a realist. I see things for what they are....I try not to lie to myself and tell myself that I'm a victim. I'm not a freakin' victim because I choose to take my power back and yet there are those who continually give their power away.
I teach my kids about consequences and responsibility. I tell them if they don't make the right choices in life then they will have to deal with the consequences of that, no matter what they are. That's not to say that I, as their mother, isn't going to support them or help them through difficult situations when they happen, but I'm not going to stop teaching it. I teach them if they don't do their homework then they will be punished at school. I teach them that if they don't pay attention in class then they're marks are going to suffer which will, in turn, cause difficulty later on. I tell them if they don't put their clothes in the wash they simply won't get washed. And when they earn money I'll be teaching them that if they spend their money on crap then they won't be able to pay their bills.
There are a myraid of reasons why someone may make a bad decision. And some of these reasons are very sad ones but it doesn't change the consequences and it doesn't magically take the choice out of their hands and into this cosmic world that forces your hand.
This is what I teach my kids but it seems society is passing the buck more and more and making excuses for bad decisions all the time rather than owning them. And I ask....Is this really wise???
Well is it?
Friday, 22 July 2011
Hair Glorious Hair
All my life I had thick wavy, sometimes frizzy hair. It might sound nice but it always looked messy unless I scrunched it up with mousse. Which was fine during the 80's and 90's when big hair was the fashion but now now when sleek and shiny with a little bit of curl is in.
Then came the invention of the hair straightener, well they were probably always around but back in my day they were curling wands and crimpers rather than straighteners. But enter the straightener and suddenly we had us poor sods spending hours in front of the mirror straightening and restraightening our locks over and over. For some people with normal to thin hair it's relatively easy but for people like me with thick hair...and lots of it...and not to mention being a busy mum of 6 - I just didn't have to time!! So straightening was something I did on the odd (very odd) occasion and usually I had help (eg my sisters attacking my hair)
If only there was a way that one could have it permanantly straightened! You know, like they have the technology to curl straight hair...surly they can work out how to straighten curly hair!
Well they did, but the product stripped your hair and left your hair dry and awful. Everyone I asked recommended for me NOT to do it. Even hairdressers, who you'd think would be after the money, never recommended I wreck my hair like that. Gah! Come on!
Then one day, about a year and a half ago, my sister, who had very thick course wavy red hair got hers chemically straightened using the latest in chemicals that didn't wreck your hair!!!
Too good to be true?
Well I watched and I asked her questions all the time. I waited to see if her hair would eventually become dry and gross. I waited to see if she would regret it so much that she wished she never did it. She went on a tour of Europe and came back with her hair looking fabulous even with regrowth it just looked so tame and beautiful.
But it costs a bundle so I started saving and saving to get it done myself and finally my husband gave me the money for my birthday to get it done.
About 2 and a half weeks ago now I went on down and sat for 4 hours at the hairdressers getting my hair chemically straightened and I have to say I LOVE IT!!!!!
My hair is silky and shiny and gorgeous and so so easy to manage. It actually looks like I've actually brushed my hair! I don't regret it - not one bit! It's the best investment I've ever made and I recommend it to anyone!
So if you've thinking about getting your hair chemically straightened - do it! With the new products out these days they will not wreck your hair and will leave your hair feeling silky and soft and neat and STRAIGHT!!!
Hail to straight hair!!!
Then came the invention of the hair straightener, well they were probably always around but back in my day they were curling wands and crimpers rather than straighteners. But enter the straightener and suddenly we had us poor sods spending hours in front of the mirror straightening and restraightening our locks over and over. For some people with normal to thin hair it's relatively easy but for people like me with thick hair...and lots of it...and not to mention being a busy mum of 6 - I just didn't have to time!! So straightening was something I did on the odd (very odd) occasion and usually I had help (eg my sisters attacking my hair)
If only there was a way that one could have it permanantly straightened! You know, like they have the technology to curl straight hair...surly they can work out how to straighten curly hair!
Well they did, but the product stripped your hair and left your hair dry and awful. Everyone I asked recommended for me NOT to do it. Even hairdressers, who you'd think would be after the money, never recommended I wreck my hair like that. Gah! Come on!
Then one day, about a year and a half ago, my sister, who had very thick course wavy red hair got hers chemically straightened using the latest in chemicals that didn't wreck your hair!!!
Too good to be true?
Well I watched and I asked her questions all the time. I waited to see if her hair would eventually become dry and gross. I waited to see if she would regret it so much that she wished she never did it. She went on a tour of Europe and came back with her hair looking fabulous even with regrowth it just looked so tame and beautiful.
But it costs a bundle so I started saving and saving to get it done myself and finally my husband gave me the money for my birthday to get it done.
About 2 and a half weeks ago now I went on down and sat for 4 hours at the hairdressers getting my hair chemically straightened and I have to say I LOVE IT!!!!!
My hair is silky and shiny and gorgeous and so so easy to manage. It actually looks like I've actually brushed my hair! I don't regret it - not one bit! It's the best investment I've ever made and I recommend it to anyone!
So if you've thinking about getting your hair chemically straightened - do it! With the new products out these days they will not wreck your hair and will leave your hair feeling silky and soft and neat and STRAIGHT!!!
Hail to straight hair!!!
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