Sunday, 30 September 2012

The Angels Take Manhattan!


Well I've just watched one of the most anticipated episodes of Dr Who for the season.  With all the hype going around about the Pond's departure I was expecting to be like this..


But I was more like this..


Call me heartless but it just didn't grab me this time. 

Oh I know what Moffat was going for and there were some parts there that I'm sure, if the kid's weren't running around and all was quiet and I was able to concentrate...I would have been more like this...


All in all, however, the Weeping Angels didn't dissappoint in freaking me out...especially the statue of liberty!

Had me going like this...

The Romeo and Juliet reference was not lost on me, but couldn't believe that they were going to go out like that...  I thought they were above that.  And I never really 'believed' in Amy and Rory's relationship in the first place, especially not to the point of not wanting to go on without the other.


But the most heartwrenching part throughout the whole episode was the Doctor's plees for Amy to not look away from the angel and to stay with him.



The reference to the Raggedy Man was a nice touch and took me back to Amy's and the Doctor's earlier relationship.

It was a nice touch to take it back to when she was the 'girl who waited' but they could have played that up a little more though.  But it was still sweet to refer back to that little girl who had so much faith that her Raggedy Man would come for her.


And it is how it ends for Amy but all of Dr Who Fandom is awaiting the intoduction of the Doctor's next companion...

and we will have to wait for the Christmas special now. 

So we'll be waiting for another 3 months for the next installment....


He loves to make us wait doesn't he?


Till then I stick with my Oswin theory and I guess we'll see if I'm even a little bit right huh? ;)

Tuesday, 25 September 2012

Wow...Talk About Bridezilla!

Just heard the most amazing story about a girl we know who's getting married.  Apparently she comes from a well-to-do family who is marrying into money and her Fiance earns a lot of money. 

Her fiance bought her a $15,000 engagement ring which she accidently flushed down the toilet because it is so big and bulky that it got caught in the toilet paper...but no matter he's bought her another one.

Her wedding is going to cost $50,000 and is being held at a 5 star resort!  No, she's not a celebrity just a chick from Wynnum!

Add to that, she's turned into a right royal bitch.  She's threatened one of her bridesmaids saying that she better not get pregnant (the poor girl and her husband have been trying for a quite a while), because she will be fat and ruin her photos.  She texts her bridesmaids constantly and when they don't text back in a resonable amount of time, she rings them and tells them "When I text you about the wedding I expect an answer straight away please the wedding is getting close".  Has threatened all her bridesmaids about getting fat and ruining her wedding.

There are a few other things I'm hearing that I can't remember right now but recently she wrote this as her fb status..."So got an email saying my wedding planning has gone on extended sick leave and not sure when she'll be back.... But in the mean time we'll replace her with an inexperienced person who hasn't taken the time to review your file and takes her time at replying to emails!!!!!! Stressed bride - CHECK! Hope my bridesmaids are ready for tears!"

To which Aaron commented with..."The wedding isnt till next year toughen up. she probably has cancer."
To which she replied with "Aaron!!!!!! Hahahaha bloody hell".  She has now deleted Aaron as her friend LOL  (She used to be my friend too but deleted me aaaaages ago.  Wonder how bad she'd feel if the chick really did have a terminal illness...although she'd probably think how inconvenient of her to get sick!

The worst yet is that my sister in law's fiance has just been involved in a serious motobike accident where he's smashed his leg and arm into pieces and have had to have screws and plates put in and will be 6 months out of work (but thankfully covered by workcover).  This girl....without actually asking about her best friend's fiance has sent her a text saying that if she can't afford to be her bridesmaid (yes my sister in law has to pay for her dress etc...despite the chick being made of money) that she'll understand but would like to know now please as the wedding's coming up really fast.  What the??  Give the girl a chance!!!  She's not thinking about YOUR wedding right now honey...she's know...up at the hospital with her fiance which you kept saying "Ewwww" about when A finally got to tell you what's happened and what she'll have to do for the next few months for the man she loves (take to toilet, dress, bath, wipe arse, empty piss bottle). 

How's that for a Bridezilla huh?  And get this....the wedding is not till....wait for it......June NEXT YEAR!!!! 

And just to think that someone had the audacity to call ME a Bridezilla!!!  Not on your life!!!  I was freaking awesome!!!!  (And I didn't even have bridesmaids to boss around or unlimited money to splurge with and my wedding was still described as a designer wedding by said person BAAAHAAHAAHAAAAA!)

Saturday, 15 September 2012

Where Does it Come From??

Determination.  Where does it come from and what makes one person more determined than another? 

Lately...well...within the last few years or so I've noticed that I seem to be a lot more determined than most people.  I haven't really known why that is.  I'm no better than anybody else, I don't believe I'm stronger than others...quite frankly I find myself quite weak in the grand scheme of things.  Don't get me wrong...I'm strong, but I find that I'm not as strong as I know I can be, definetly not strong enough to have done the things I have done.  Sometimes I think I've gotten through it all from sheer fluke, rather than any real talent on my part.  I don't think much of myself, not in the low self-esteem type way but more in the realistic way.  Realistically speaking, I'm not all that.....and really I've had a long time to become ok with that.

But underneath it all..the weakness, my inability to handle stress or pressure all that well....I have this determination, that, I guess, have gotten me through.  I guess you can say it's a talent of sorts...I didn't create it, I don't think.  I was probably born with it I guess.  I must remember to ask my mum what she thinks about it...I'm sure she would say that I was stubborn.  And I guess stubborness has hindered me in some ways but not others.  I've noticed that stubborness has helped me in the important things.  I'm not one to quit easily...I fight.  I have too much pride to just give up on something....but then the 'something' has to be important to me and/or an actual decision rather than a pie in the sky idea.

I guess I should explore examples....

Losing weight!  Ah the master of all 'mountains' to get over for most people.  And just like most people I failed at that a few times.  I quit way too soon.  Which would give one the impression that I mustn't be very determined at all...I most certainly don't have any will power.  I stopped and started so many times!  But this is where it changed from this 'pie in the sky' ideal to an actual decision.  Once I actually made that decision THAT WAS IT!!!  I was determined.  I pulled out all the stops...I quit making excuses.  Trust me I had a lot of excuses and I could have formulated excuses anytime throughout my I had in the past, I was not above excuses...especially valid ones....oh they were all valid excuses!  Really they were!  But I was determined to do this.  I was sick of being a fatty.  I was sick of feeling down on myself and I was sick of seeing my self body issues dwindling...I WAS going to become healthy again and I was willing to do all that it took, as long as it was get there.

Isn't it funny to have that switch go off and suddenly you go from 'meh' to 'that's it I'm doing this'!  What makes this happen I wonder?  I had so much will power!  I went to the gym almost every day....I HATED THE GYM but I kept going anyway.  I wasn't going to allow my hatred for the gym or the inconvenience of the gym to get in the way of my goal.  I had a goal and I was going to reach it.  End of story.

Ok that's one example...

Another example would be Tupperware!  I used to be a tupperware lady.  I was good at it too, I was beginning to rake in some cash...or pocket money, if you will.  But then I fell pregnant and between morning sickness and tiredness (being pregnant with 5 other children to take care of was no easy feat) I just couldn't do it anymore, I became complacent, and would make a few mistakes....that ordinarily I wouldn't have made.  In the end I quit!  Now where was that determination then?  Yes I had an excuse...but I also know that there are many women who have been pregnant and had other children and worked full time and somehow managed.  They were able to do it...why wasn't I?  It came down to determination...they had it...I didn't. 

Perhaps Tupperware wasn't all that important to me at the time...perhaps that's why I didn't fight as hard...but then getting fit was important to me and yet I stopped and started that many a time. this is a big one.  I don't know where or how...but I had the determination and stubborness of a Bull!!!  I didn't realise it at the time...but over the years from talking to other mothers and watching them struggle I've realised that I must have been one hell of a stubborn old cow!!

I had EVERYTHING going against me!!!  I have had more 'issues' breastfeeding than a lot of other mothers (not all).  And yet they quit...and I didn't.  What made them quit and me succeed...not just once..oh no...but SIX TIMES?  I'm no stronger than them...seriously I spent a lot of my early motherhood falling apart, mainy from not having enough support in my life more than anything  And throughout all that, I never ACTUALLY fell apart...and I never ACTUALLY quit!  Breastfeeding was not easy...and I was not 'lucky' as I've been told must have been the case, in fact being told that I was 'lucky' felt very condescending...ok maybe I was lucky once....or even twice but to be lucky 6 times??  If I was so lucky how come I haven't yet won the lottery?? wasn't was determination, attitude and my management skills that got me through it.  But where did I get them from?  And why some things and with other things?

This brings me to daycare.  I've never been one to think much of daycare at all....although my opinion has since changed slightly since my aunt, who I admire and trust as a person, started working there.  Whilst understanding my concerns with childcare, she was able to share with me the positives that can come of it too.  So I'm not all that against it these days.  Nevertheless...I'm very proud of myself.  I don't know how...and I don't know why...but somehow I've managed to go almost 16 years as a mother...through having a husband that was never emotionally present...go through an awful and bitter breakup and divorce, being a single mother...hooking up with someone new and dealing with the adjustment that miscarriage and moving and depression and all that...and....NOT ONCE...have I EVER resorted to sending my children to daycare!  Not for any much as I may have needed a break or whatever the situation may have been...I never actually did send them. 

Again...I'm not better than anyone else but I think the difference with me is the way I think about things.  I think it's easy to blame the children for how hard your life is...that you need a break.  I don't mean blame in a negative sense either...more so see the children as the reason for XYZ.  I guess when I felt the most pressure in wanting to send them to daycare is when I changed how I saw the 'issue' itself.  So instead of thinking to myself 'Well maybe if I send such and such to daycare then things will be better because I can have that one day to myself blah blah blah" I thought "'s not the child that's the's how I'm dealing with said child/situation".  So in the case of wasn't the breastfeeding that was the enemy...breastfeeding was not causing my issues and my tiredness and the fact that I felt drained 24/7 it was my management of my management of my management of my tiredness. 

I guess I have this ability to ....eventually...cos lets face it initially I'd be all blaming of whatever until I actually stopped and thought about it LOL....see what the real problem was and rather than quit...try and see the situation and manage the situation another way. 

Take my son for instance....Rhys!  For a few years, probably from about 7/8 years (and on a smaller scale earlier than that even) till about 12ish...I had nothing but problems with him.  His behaviour at school...his behaviour at home.  My fear for him was that he was going to become a criminal by the time he hit his teens...and I was deadly serious.  I got it from every which way...I had people telling me that perhaps I should send my son away to live with his father.  I had it from his father.  I had it from Aaron.  I had it from my grandfather.  I had it from my mother.  I had it from friends.  They were all saying...."Hey maybe you should send him to live with his father!"...each person giving their reasons as to why I should.  But you know what?  I KNEW that that wasn't the answer!  I KNEW that quiting and sending my child away wasn't going to be the cure here.  I just KNEW it was worth the fight...HE was worth the fight.  And rather than look at HIM as the problem....rather I looked at my management of the situation.  Again...quitting would have been the easy thing to do...stopping breastfeeding would have been easy...sending my kids to daycare would have been easy....quiting weight loss would have been easy ....and sending my son away would have been easy too. 

To me...all those easy way outs just seemed such a copout!  Yes I could of stopped breastfeeding, it certainly would  have made my homelife better...maybe...but then what?  How would I feel about myself if I just quit...why?...because it got hard??  Hello!!!!  LIFE is hard!  Everybody has hard.  You don't just give up because it got hard!  You don't just send your kid to daycare cos it's don't just quit the gym because it's don't just send your child away cos it's hard!  What kind of a presedence does that set when you start quiting important things because it's hard?  What kind of a message would that have sent to my children?  To my son?  "Oh I sent you away because you got too hard".  I KNEW that if I had done that, it would have done way more damage to him...and I think also it would have sent a message to my other kids that they can be sent away too if life gets too hard.  That I can give up on my children...that I can give up on what's important...just like that! 

In the end, what all this detemination and stubborness has gotten me is a sense of pride and empowerment beyond belief!!!  Look what I've done???  I lost 25kg in 6 months...with 6 children to boot!  I breastfed 6 children for 6 years!!! (one year each was my goal)  I never resorted to dumping my kids into daycare just so I can have a 'break' (and God knows I needed one) and best of all I NEVER resorted to sending my son away because he became too hard. 

Things are so so so so much better with him now.  I don't know what's changed but it's been almost sudden, it's been almost an overnight change, that's how quick it was.  Our relationship has grown considerably!  I believe there's a few factors at play because he was slowly improving once we moved to Toowoomba and he started spending more time with his Dad...that was the beginning of the change.  But the vast improvement has come this year.  As much as I feared him starting highschool and thinking that if he can't cope with primary the hell would he be able to cope with highschool...he has thrived!!!  The change in him has been phenominal!  He is a different kid. To have his SOSE teacher call me and tell me "Rhys gives me the impression that he's got it all together"...yeh wow!  None of his primary teachers would have said that...NONE!

 I think that it's partly because he's matured and grown into himself, perhaps how highschool is structured and how he's treated at highschool (like an adult?) is better for thim.  But mostly I'd like to think the change within our relationship has come from knowing that I stuck by him and never gave up on him.  I just knew that it'd be the wrong thing to do and a copout and the message he would have gotten from me would have been that I give up when the going gets tough and he would have lost his trust in me something shocking.  I think he appreciates and trusts me more now.  Don't get me wrong, he's not perfect by any means and he still has his moments...but now days these moments are easily dealt with and probably no different from any other teen whereas before it was almost unbearable and beating me down.  But I'm glad I stuck to my guns because we are so much better off because of it.  He even has goals now for when he leaves school...we've both sat down and worked out plan A, plan B...etc etc  And for the first time he's showing enthusiasm for school work to the point where we are down to him only failing ONE subject!  And because he's showing all this promise now, I'm willing to hire a tutor for him for next term to sort that out.

So yes...stubborness and determination can be bad sometimes but it can also have good outcomes...where the hell it comes from in me? I don't know.  I'm really not all that...but somehow I dig deep down and I find this sense of determination and go like a bull at a gate and do not quit!  I may want to...I may come very close to but somehow my pride doesn't allow me to!

I just hope this gets me through Uni bahaahaaaaa! ;)

Saturday, 8 September 2012

My 'Oswin' Theory...

My theory on Oswin, being a genius and all, she saved 'herself', think 'Silence in the Library', Clara is merely her first name, Oswin being her middle name or vice versa. She's saved on 'file' somewhere and the doctor will download her.....if he remembers ;P
 Remember = computer 'memory'
 Oswin worked with computers, was able to hack the most advanced computer system in the universe - Dalak...make them 'forget'...would be able to make the Dr 'remember' via the Tardis even...OMG hack the tardis! Oh what an idea! Oh oh oh in the matrix Mr Anderson's name is 'Neo' his hacker name...Oswin is her hacker name too...her real name is Clara.
 She could be in the Tardis 'matrix'...waiting to be 'remembered'.
She will make herself 'known' to the doctor by playing that music, and he will remember her and download her from the tardis matrix like a program.
My other theory is, Oswin was talking to her mother, perhaps 'Clara' is her mother? But that's too boring LOL I like my theory better...yes Oswin was a Dalek but she was also human and a genius which is why the Daleks wanted her
And if that kid in 'Silence in the Library' can 'save' people on file then I'm sure Oswin can do it. Hacking the Tardis is a bit far fetched but so's Moffat so....
You saw it here first! ;)

Thursday, 6 September 2012

Doctor Who...worth getting up at 5am for!


Yes....I did!

We have been waiting for about year or so for the new season and when it finally came they were going to make us Aussies wait a week before they aired it.  Well thankfully in this digital age of 'internet' we didn't have to wait as ABC iview had it available at 5.10 on father's day morning for us all to watch about an hour after it aired in the UK.  Yay!

So what did I think of the first episode of the season? 

All in all?...


...but also mixed.  A combination of happiness that Dr Who is back and confusion that they introduced the doctor's new companion under another name, who ended up being a Dalek..

Who liked making souffles...

...and who they promptly killed off in the first episode.






Let's not let that spoil the fun though, for the poor doctor as we are made very well aware that she is going to be remembered...

image the question are they going to bring her back??? ..

.And more to the what form??

A Dalek with an identity crisis...


...a girl who bakes souffles who travels with a...

But I suppose we all know what happens to the Doctor when he travels alone..


But what of Amy and Rory?

Can they be killed off?.....again?

But they can't do that!!!!


Live in an alternate universe?...again?


Nope they can't do that either....I could not handle anymore of that...


Oh my poor heart!

Hmm I guess we'll have to wait and see.



Meanwhile I await....

,Fangirl excitedly .....

....for the next pre-airing on iview of....


 "Dinosaurs on a Spaceship" and wonder what's going to happen now that the question has been asked....

Will the silence fall?

Will there be more weeping Angels?


How about dancing Oods?


Bring back the Ballerina Dalek?


Who's to say?

I'm getting fidgetty with anticipation just thinking about it!


As for the Doctor much as I love 11,

I am still quite upset that 10 lefts us...

But am looking forward to many many more eps with 11 doing what he does best...

So with that, I bid you....

And will  be back after the next installment...



PS - Fez's are cool!

Ok I'll go now...